Good idea or not, I am what I do: at least I've convinced myself of that. Not a great idea, because when things are down business-wise, it really weighs on my self-worth. Regardless, it is a reality that I deal with day in and day out, and as I've gotten older and wiser (to some degree), it can be somewhat debilitating. Like a roller coaster ride, it has its ups and downs. So in these trying economic times I have to be proactive in defeating those feelings. A business partner at one time told me that sharing these kind of feelings is "too dark" for a blog post. I disagree, as I see this as a way of simply being honest about how I deal with life, and writing about that provides a really clear way of letting it all "go." Here are the ways I combat the lows
SAVORING: my time with my wife, my dog, my family...the blue skies, the leaves on the trees and the warmth of the air. The natural world gives me so much pause and astounds all of my senses. Every day it is beautiful and comforting and provides me with something to feel good about:
BEING QUIET: Just taking a few moments to sit, reflect, and clear my mind. I love being quiet with Jenny and Oscar, hearing their breathing, being present, feeling 'great-full' for what each of them brings to my life.
DAYDREAMING: allowing my mind to wander to whatever "what-ifs" I can create. I often return to my childhood, my old neighborhood, and walk the block and remember so vividly who lived in each house, how we all played together, what the daylight looked like and how different moments felt and the light at those moments. I am lucky to have a very good photographic memory which allows me to run my past as if it were a movie.
I'm sure there are other things that I do as well, but these stand out as the ones that are most comforting and therapeutic. My mind must wander...it must have times of freedom from all the constraints and demands of business, bills, home and car repair, and relationships to expand, and fly and be free. It's important for clarity, decisiveness and coping once one can take in the whole picture. And that is the very best part of combining who I am with what I do.
Three things that I cherish about my house.